Anonymous asked: I'm a bit confused with myself. I'm dating and in love with a boy, but he's the only boy I feel that way about. I don't like to call myself bisexual because I am generally repulsed by men, but I don't feel fair calling myself a lesbian either, because let's face it, I'm with a boy and that's not really gay, is it? My friends poke fun at me about it and it gives me the shits. I don't know, I don't think this is really seeking advice, I just needed a vent. It's hard sometimes.
It’s completely okay to vent to me. It’s what I’m here for. It can be very hard, and i understand how complicated it may feel. But don’t feel the need to label yourself if you don’t feel like anything fits. You like whoever you like, don’t feel the pressure to define yourself. You don’t need a label. X
Anonymous asked: Hi! I'm a girl and I've had a relationship with a girl because I thought that I fell in love with her. We dated like 2 months. But then I started to think different. I felt completely heterosexual. I broke up with her. And I don't really think that I like girls. So what was that relationship? Am I bisexual or lesbian or something like that?
Just because you had a relationship with a girl doesn’t mean you’re a lesbian or bisexual. A lot of people experiment, and obviously you realized that you don’t feel that way about her, which is completely fine. Don’t focus so much on labels. If you’re only attracted to males, there’s nothing wrong with that at all. You may have been confused which again is completely normal. Just because you’ve dated a girl does not mean you cannot be straight. Only you know what you are, nobody else can tell you. x
Anonymous asked: ok so I'm dating this girl and she's fantastic, and she's experienced with girl, and I've never been with a girl ever, do you have any advice to please her and not be horrible at it, I'm really nervous
It’s completely normal to feel nervous love, you need to take a step back and try not to overthink it. She’s your girlfriend, and she’s not going to expect you to know how to do everything on your first go. Whether you’re experienced or not, everyone is different and likes different things. She too will need to explore you and find out what you might like because you could be completely different to the girls she’s had experience with. Ultimately, you just need to do what you think you might like, just don’t over think it. She may even help you along the way. If you’re nervous let her know, I’m sure she would know how to deal with it. x
Anonymous asked: ok, so im going out with this girl, who i actually reeeaally like. a lot. i get so nervous near her and she doesnt talk much. shes very talkative with her friends though.. how do you think we can get closer??
Honestly, as her girlfriend, you also want to be the friend. Do something fun that isn’t solely based around your relationship. Much like she’d do with her friends, do something fun like that. Some people are generally shy and it just takes time. x
Anonymous asked: My girlfriend was a virgin before we started going out and I don't know if she's just nervous or actually isn't sure what to do....but we only ever have manual sex and I'm not sure how to go about asking if she'd go down on me....
Okay firstly, she’s not either nervous or doesn’t know what to do. Considering she was a virgin should would be both nervous and unsure of what to do. I think you should literally just have an open conversation with her. Ask her how she’s feeling with your sexual relationship as it is, and ask what she may or may not be comfortable. If she then asks you, you’re more than okay to tell her what your thoughts are. Just keep in mind if she’s not ready to do certain things with you, never pressure her. Take things at the pace she needs, in the end it will be worth it. x
Anonymous asked: If you don't get many asks anymore take it as a good thing. It means you have helped people so they don't have to turn to anonymously asking for advice anymore. I speak from experience :)
I get asks lovely I’ve just been going through some stuff so I’ve been a bit out of action. I do however get a lot of private asks aswell which I never post publicly. I’m going to try and keep up now. x
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